The 2nd Mrs.

Her name was Heidi and she was a blonde (of course) nurse(what else!) nine years my junior (what a surprise!!!). I did not meet her for almost a year and a half after my husband left me (although I new about her from almost the beginning). I wanted to hate her but between the time I learned of her and the time I actually met her, God had performed some sort of heart surgery on me and I actually wound up liking her and we became good friends and better co parents than my ex and I.

How did I become friends with the other woman? I'll tell you what God showed me. First, it wasn't personal-- she did not know me (yes, what she did was wrong on moral grounds but it was not against me personally). My ex had the "contract" with me, it was him who breached the contract not her. Second, you reap what you sow in life. What ever consequences wife #2 was going to have to suffer, that was between her and God, not me. This was great because I could trust God to do the judging and I was free to love. Third, "do not return evil with evil but rather return evil with good--it will be like pouring burning coals on their head." This scripture helped me when I wanted vengeance and burning coals on the head sounded good to me! Later I learned that returning evil with good is so disarming the other person usually can't help but be nice. Fourth, keep your friends close and your enemies even closer! If she was going to be around my children, I wanted to keep a close eye on her and even help her to be a better step mom if asked (and she did!). Finally, I NEVER wanted to give her a reason to speak ill of me to my children (and she never did).
More on Mrs. #2 tomorrow.